Resources

This page is continually under construction.  I will add resources that are carefully picked and reviewed by me so that my opinion of them can be thorough and useful for any particular issue that may pertain to my readers and contributors to the conversation of Mixed Orientation Marriages.

Resources:

  • Walking the Bridgeless Canyon: Repairing the Breach Between the Conservative Church and the LGBT Christian by Kathy Baldock

Kathy Baldock of Reno, Nevada, is an internationally known advocate for the LGBT community regarding Scripture, Church teachings, apologetics, and raising awareness of how gay, lesbian, transgender, bisexual, intersex, queer and allies are treated within our Churches.  She tackles the topic of Mixed Orientation Marriages in a chapter, and my Big Reveal story is also included. Her book comes out on July 15, 2014, and is a very important work that will be used to help people understand these issues more clearly.  Kathy is a straight, intelligent, no-nonsense Christian who is in the battlefield trying to make a difference from within the walls of the Church.  True change can and will happen that way, and I am very blessed to have her in my life and call her friend.  You can pre-order your copies of her book at this link:  Amazon Link for Walking the Bridgeless Canyon.

 

  • CanyonWalkerConnections.com is Kathy Baldock’s website with oodles of information, education, and encouragement for people involved in any way with the LGBT community.

Check her website out and pass along the word to others.  I often refer people to her regarding Scriptural interpretations of same-sex relationships and the affects/issues that arise in the Church and within families.  She has a mission and heart of gold.  Click here to get to her website.

 

Founded in 1986 by a wife whose husband came out of the closet, Amity Pierce Buxton, it is a very comprehensive support group.  They have helped thousands of women and men through the process of dealing with a Mixed Orientation Marriage.  I have nothing negative to say about them.   The have some resources regarding Christians, the Church and LGBT Christians, but I feel that the experiences I have had with the church and the people I have networked with gives my blog site a little bit of an edge, or a niche, in this area.  While I am aware that many spouses divorce because MOM issues, I want to remain neutral and non-judgmental about spouses who choose to stay together and work through their Mixed Orientation Marriage with each other for any reason that they feel is important.  However, SSN is an excellent resource and well organized, and I encourage you to check them out, whether your plan is to stay married or not, to your gay, bi, lesbian or transgendered spouse.

 

  • Mixed Orientation Marriage – MOM Support: A Google+ Community

This Google + Community is one more way to get and stay connected with others for support.  I created and moderate this community, which is an excellent way to connect with other people who support you and understand (or want to understand) what you may be going through.  It is easy to chat on there, even through video calls, and you can share links to articles, links to videos and receive encouragement from others who may not use this blog as a way to receive support.  Google+ has so many features within its tools, so if you have a Gmail account, you can easily explore and find useful tools for networking and storing documents.  I am a huge fan.  Make your profile today, play around with the features and go to the MOM Support Community by clicking here.

 

Their Mission and Vision are these:

“Mission
COLAGE unites people with lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and/or queer parents into a network of peers and supports them as they nurture and empower each other to be skilled, self-confident, and just leaders in our collective communities.”

“Vision
We envision a world in which youth with one or more lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and/or queer (LGBTQ) parents are connected to a broad community of peers and mentors, are recognized as the authorities of their shared experiences, belong to respected and valued family structures, and have the tools and support to create and maintain a just society.”

Colage offers support for families who have LGBTQIA members in their family, and in particular, they offer a blog that is just for kids of families like this.  Check them out and have your kids check out the “KidSafe” blog.  There is some good stuff there.

 

First Person Account from John Palk, an ex-ex-gay national figure, once associated with the now debunked Christian organization, Exodus International, and James Dobson’s Focus on the Family.  His narrative, To Straight and Back, offers insights into the ex-gay therapy world, how he and his now ex-wife were touted as poster-children for conversion therapy, and how harmful this was to his own life and to the lives of others all over the world.  In the article, there is information on the second page that is set apart which gives examples of how archaic and harmful various conversion therapy methods truly are.  Click here to view his story.

 

Movies/Videos:

The movie Change of Heart is about a married couple with children who go through trials of the husband coming out of the closet.  It is pretty well done, and it may speak to you in some way.

Amity Pierce Buxton
The Straight Spouse Network is here for you. We have been through it. That’s why we can provide personal, confidential support and information to straight husbands and wives. We’ve been partners of gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender mates. We understand how painful and confusing this is for you. We strive to help you make sense of it all and find the support you need. – See more at: http://www.straightspouse.org/#sthash.uoaC3A8T.dpuf
The Straight Spouse Network is here for you. We have been through it. That’s why we can provide personal, confidential support and information to straight husbands and wives. We’ve been partners of gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender mates. We understand how painful and confusing this is for you. We strive to help you make sense of it all and find the support you need. – See more at: http://www.straightspouse.org/#sthash.uoaC3A8T.dpuf
The Straight Spouse Network is here for you. We have been through it. That’s why we can provide personal, confidential support and information to straight husbands and wives. We’ve been partners of gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender mates. We understand how painful and confusing this is for you. We strive to help you make sense of it all and find the support you need. – See more at: http://www.straightspouse.org/#sthash.uoaC3A8T.dpuf

 

 

I Thought It Was Forever is a developing film project that Straight Spouse Network is involved in to bring awareness, honesty and education to those who need it.  View the trailer here and if you feel like giving to the project, information follows the trailer. 

 

Video with Matthew Vines describing the Bible and Homosexuality

This brief video was created by Thought Cafe. It features Matthew Vines, the author of “God and the Gay Christian,” a book that attempts to make the Biblical case for same-sex marriage. He also founded an organization called The Reformation Project that trains Christians to support LGBT people. You can follow Matthew on Twitter or Like him on Facebook to find out more about his work. (taken from Upworthy)

 

6 thoughts on “Resources

  1. Glad to find this site and all the resources. Sad to find – yet again – that there’s VERY little for or about straight men married to lesbians. My case. We seem to be a minority of the minority in MOMs who don’t head for divorce, but who try to stay together and make their relationship work all the same…

    1. Brassyhub,

      Feel free to contact me at my email so that I can possibly get you in touch with other men who have shared experiences with you.

      contactsamesides@gmail.com

      Thanks for commenting. It is true that the resources available are usually geared toward women experiencing their husbands coming out of the closet. I wish there was more for you.

      Emily

    2. I am a straight spouse but your right, I am a woman but I would like to let you know I am not heading for divorce but going to stay and see what kind of relationship we can have together now that we know the truth about him. I wish you luck and hope we are of both sucsessful in our relationships

      1. I completely understand the decision to stay with your spouse once the truth comes out. I know people who have made it work. Thank you for success wishes, and I hope only the best things for you.

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