Concise Advice for the LGBTQ Spouse


I often refer people to the Straight Spouse Network. While there are philosophies that people may or may not agree with on their site, overall, it is a wonderful place to connect and help the straight spouse to not feel alone.

For the LGBTQ spouse, the advice and encouragement I give is definitely filtered through my own experience and those thousands of people I have witnessed over the years of being on this journey. While I believe I empathize well as an Ally, I certainly don’t have all the answers. This blog article that was posted on the Straight Spouse Network was quite concise with tips for the LGBTQ spouse, and I believe it is worth the read.

If you do, please bear in mind that it may hit your heart and raise emotions in you. Go into it with an open mind, and look at it strictly from your straight spouse’s perspective. There are some golden nuggets of wisdom in it.

Thank you for caring about what your straight spouse is going through and wanting to help them, too.

Live Life, Love Life, Impact Others,

Emily Reese


5 thoughts on “Concise Advice for the LGBTQ Spouse

  1. Emily, I am so grateful to you for your guidance to so many. I certainly wish I would have access to your wisdom 10 years ago!

  2. Alternate Paths is a wonderful resource for straight spouses who want to continue to love, support, grow and stay married to their bi/gay spouse. They have links to several support groups for straight spouses, mixed orientation couples and bi/gay husbands who want to stay married.

  3. First…the pain of my ‘discovery’ is something that I cannot truly describe.

    This article was very accurate….especially the newly created titles for the straight spouse. At the end of the day, please give respect. We as the straight spouses have loved our spouses, nurtured them and….loved them unconditionally (even after coming out of the closet).

    I lovingly agreed to be a wife, not a ‘breeder’, not a ‘mommy incubator’ or a ‘beard’.

    This pain has granted me the opportunity to know that I belong to God, who will never leave me or forsake. This nugget of Truth has been my life source throughout this ever-confusing situation.

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